Ayanda Borotho sees that it is imperative for men to protect children and women because she was brought up with it

Ayanda Borotho sees that it is imperative for men to protect children and women because she was brought up with it

Commemorating the 16 Days of Activism for No Violence against Women and youngsters campaign, actress and author Ayanda Borotho has opened a conversation about the importance of stopping the abuse of girls and youngsters not only at this point of the year but on a day of each year.

Ayanda Borotho sees that it is imperative for men to protect children and women because she was brought up with it

Ayanda shared her views on the subject through a thought-provoking post on Instagram when she lifted the lid on her friend being killed by her husband, alongside their three children, by driving towards an oncoming car.

“Every day should be 16 days of activism of no violence against women and youngsters, every day.

“About a month ago, I lost an expensive friend who was trying to go away to a wedding that was abusive emotionally, physically, and financially. The husband drove into oncoming traffic with three of their children, killing himself, her and their three-year-old last born during a head-on collision.”

Ayanda revealed that the 2 other children survived, including those that weren’t with them that day.

“Her husband had been threatening to destroy and kill her for a few time. She was within the process of leaving, but because we never really believe someone who says they love us can actually kill us, we stay, try, help, even allowing them access into our space after we leave.”


The actress said her friend’s hope that her husband would do better led him to require advantage of her.

“That was his chance. And he took it. The trauma of it all sent me straight into a dark hole. I’m still processing how our men, husbands, brothers, sons, fathers, who are meant to guard us, find yourself being the very people that bury us.

“I have seen the toxicity of male privilege around me for as long as I can recall. once I wrote my book Unbecoming To Become, it had been an effort to unpack that patriarchy may be a systematic narrative manufactured at birth, nurtured through socialization and conditioning as we grow, protected and perpetuated [even by women], once we are trusted with it.”

Ayanda touched on how she disliked the term “GBV” because it seeks to undermine the severity of the difficulty, which is that the “systematic killing of vulnerable children and ladies

Ayanda Borotho sees that it is imperative for men to protect children and women because she was brought up with it

“The term is merely but a manifestation of the toxic patriarchy we’ve been conditioned to normalize and embrace as a part of our reality.”

She said she plans to unpack themes from her book in honor of the ladies and youngsters who were violated and killed by the lads they loved.

“To the deceased, may your blood represent you and therefore the remainder of us. To those that survived, may you discover the sunshine that was buried to assist you to reside fearlessly? To the trapped, it isn’t impossible to start out over. I urge you to settle on you. To the voiceless, we’ll be your voice until you discover the courage to unchain yours.”

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