Mbongeni Ngema is accused of raping his ex-wife.
Mbongeni Ngema is accused of raping his ex-wife.
Internationally acclaimed playwright Mbongeni Ngema’s ex-wife, Xoliswa Nduneni-Ngema, has accused him of raping her at Elangeni Hotel in Durban eight months after they separated over his extra-marital affair with Sarafina starlet Leleti Khumalo.
In a sensational book to be launched in the week, she said before he raped her, he parked his car on a freeway, fetched a wheel spanner from the boot of his hired Beemer and threatened to interrupt her jaws with it so she wouldn’t be ready to smile for her nyatsis (lovers) again.
She also said before raping her within the bedroom, he beat her up so hard that when she tried to go away space the subsequent day, she collapsed near the elevator.
In another incident in Nigeria, Ngema is accused of attempting to throw her out of a multi-story hotel through the window outside of which was a steel-blade propeller that might have cut her into pieces. This was after she, out of fear, had s.e.x with him in what she didn’t at the time know whether to call it “rape” or not.
The explosive tidbits are contained in her memoir, Heart of a robust Woman, written by veteran author Fred Khumalo.
Relating the ordeal, she said she left for Kwazulu-natal after she separated from Mbongeni over his adulterous affair with Khumalo.
She said one among Sarafina cast members, Bongani Hlophe, arrived within the bank where she worked as a teller and told her that Mbongeni had been trying to find her. He told her he would go and tell Mbongeni of her whereabouts. She said Mbongeni came to her place of labor the day after Hlophe had found her.
Xoliswa explained that Mbongeni apologized for what happened between them and begged her to rekindle their love. But she would have none of it and told him that she was through with him.
She said after a heated argument, he asked to possess dinner together with her, and after enjoying the dinner, and alcohol, she asked him to drop her off at her place, which was professor Nongwa’s residential house at Howard College.
As they were driving in his hired BMW, she realized they were on the freeway heading towards Umlazi. When she protested that she wanted to travel home, he pulled to the side of the freeway and switched the engine off.
“He was suddenly angry, and that I realized he was drunk. He had had some alcohol during dinner, but probably he had started drinking before he picked me up to travel to the restaurant. Now the alcohol had kicked in. I used to be scared. I knew he might be extremely violent when drunk. He got off the car and visited the boot for something. once I heard clinking metallic noise, I knew I used to be in trouble. I immediately locked the doors.”
She further said he came back wielding a wheel spanner and began shouting.
“You b!tch! You’ve been with other men. Now I’m getting to break those jaws of yours so you can’t smile at them anymore. Open this door,” she writes of the incident.
Xoliswa notes that when she told him she wouldn’t open the door until he had put the wheel spanner back within the boot, Mbongeni ran around the car trying to open all the doors, while shouting obscenities. But eventually, he got tired and visited to replace the wheel spanner within the boot.
She said when she opened for him, he drove to his hotel.
Xoliswa said he demanded s.e.x and when she refused he physically grabbed her and tried to str!p her clothes off.
“He started punching me, grabbing me by my neck, he reached for the phone. He dialed and began chatting with my parents. ‘Your child may be a b!tch’, he punched me,” she said.
She further said he told her parents that he was assaulting her before slamming down the phone and continued to punch her several times until she was too weak to fight back.
“Then he str!ped me [email protected] I had no fight left in me. He had s.e.x with me. I can say it had been rape. But at that point, I refused to use the word ‘rape’. a neighborhood of me said I used to be still married to him, and a wife can’t be raped by her husband. That was how I assumed and reasoned at the time.
“But it had been indeed rape. I had not consented. I didn’t participate in the act. I simply forced my mind to drift apart while he huffed and puffed. I had never thought I might be raped by my very own husband.”
In the morning, she collapsed as she left the space and awakened with a gaggle of individuals towering above her.
She said somebody called the doctor who confronted Ngema in his room.
“You beat your wife on a spinal cord! What was your intention? Would you like to paralyze her or kill her? The doctor wanted to understand if I wanted to press assault charges against him. I said no.”
Her next ordeal happened when the Sarafina crew was in Nigeria. She said she was in her bedroom when Mbongeni violently banged on her bedroom door, calling her a b!tch. She says he thought she was sleeping with another man in her room.
Mbongeni refuted Xoliswa’s claims that he assaulted and raped her. “I would never have hit her, altogether my married life. I don’t remember hitting her, I used to be angry and disappointed at how things had clothed.
“And yes, she had cheated on me while I used to be away and things between us had deteriorated. She admitted to the present.
“I was hurt and angry that she cheated on me,” said the playwright.